the second one is different

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Making best friends, not rivals
How to Raise Two Smart Children

Sibling conflict and competition are common in families. The eldest child, who received all the love and expectations of the family, experiences the transfer of love when a younger sibling is born. The second child shares the attention of the parents with the eldest child from birth. Since he or she has never experienced the love of the parents alone, he or she instinctively feels thirsty. Contrary to the parents’ wishes for the children to grow up to be the best friends in the world, there is always tension between siblings. This book examines how children develop their own characteristics and self-initiative amid jealousy and competition when raising two or more children, and introduces parenting methods that minimize conflict between siblings while also developing each child’s individual talents. In addition, you can get hints on parenting methods that can be adopted for various types of siblings through columns written by parents raising twins, siblings, sisters, and brothers.

First, want to be noticed, second, want to be recognized
- The kind of love a child wants is different

Many parents decide to have a second child because they feel lonely when their child follows their mother around at home and sits down alone at the playground to play in the sand. In this harsh world, unlike the parents' wish that the two children depend on each other and get along well, families with two or more children suffer from fighting among siblings. It is a headache to mediate the fight between the first and second children.
The causes of fights are varied, such as toys, sweets, clothes, and shoes, but the essence of fighting between siblings is in the developmental process of wanting to be recognized by parents or finding one's own identity. That's why children's fights mostly happen when mom or dad is in the same space. When children fight, they constantly send unspoken messages to their parents asking them to take their side. If you are curious about how to minimize conflict between siblings and help children be considerate and get along well, you can find solutions in this book.

The second one is different?
The second one is different!

Psychologist Adler said, “It is a mistake to think that children from the same family grow up in the same environment. Children share common characteristics in the family group, but each child’s psychological environment is different because of their birth order.”
The differences between the first and second children are common. The first child is more sincere and conservative than the younger sibling, while the second child reacts quickly to newness and change. The first child is overly dignified, while the second child is sensitive to the emotional changes of the parents, and is in charge of being cute at home and monopolizing the cuteness. Also, the second children are unusually sensitive to competition and have great initiative, so many of them experience success. Representative examples include Coach Gus Hiddink, who led the Korean national team to the semifinals, and Kim Yuna, who rose to become the world-class figure skating queen in Korea, a skating wasteland.
Despite these various differences between siblings, parents who raise second children usually deal with them based on their experience raising their first child. Then, they become confused when dealing with a child whose personality and behavior are so different from their first child.
This book explores the characteristics of second children that are different from first children and shows what methods parents can choose to help their children develop their individual talents.