between parent and child

『Between parent and child』 by Haim G. Guinert, who has advocated fundamental changes in the way parents treat children, is the first book in the 『Between with us series』. The 『Between Us』 series includes 『Between parent and teenager』 (scheduled to be published in early September 2003), 『Between teacher and child』 (scheduled to be published in early October 9), etc. It consists of 2003 volumes. The 『Between Us』 series has been loved as a children's education guide for the past 10 years, and is a classic in parent education that has been translated and read in 3 languages ​​around the world. Recently, this book was reissued in a revised and expanded edition in 35 by Haim G. Guinert's wife, Alice Guinert, and Dr. Wallace Goddard.
The revised edition maintains the framework of parent education covered in the 1965 edition, but has made special supplements to conversation techniques, and covers in detail the psychological flow and emotional connection between parents and children behind conversation skills, making it about 1/3/XNUMX the length of the existing book. Approximately XNUMX contents were revised and expanded. In addition, the examples covered in the book have been supplemented in various ways to make it easier to apply in real life.

Structure and contents of the book
No parent wakes up in the morning and decides to make their child's day miserable.
Many parents wake up in the morning and make this promise.
“I’m going to spend today without any trouble with the kids. “Don’t scold, don’t argue, and don’t fight.”
But no matter how good your intentions are, an unwanted war will break out again.
As a parent, endless little things happen, forgettable conflicts erupt, and crises arise out of nowhere, demanding a response. Parents' responses have consequences. Whether a parent's response was appropriate or not, it affects the child's self-esteem and personality.

- Children learn through experience.
― Parents need a special method to build human relationships and have conversations with their children.
― To improve the way you communicate with children, you must first examine how you respond to them.
- Parents must learn how to treat children like guests.

▶ How to have a good conversation with your child

1. Find the child’s heart hidden in his or her words.
2. Preaching and criticism cause anger in children.
3. Talk to your child in response to their feelings, not their behavior.
4. Understand the child’s position and communicate with empathy.
5. Children love their parents, but they also hate them. We need to help children realize that these feelings are normal and natural. In this way, it is good to relieve children of any feelings of guilt or unnecessary worry.
6. Help your child understand his or her own emotions.

▶ How to praise

1. Praise only the given facts, not the praise that makes a judgment or evaluates the value.
2. Don’t praise your child’s character or personality, but be sure to praise your child’s efforts and what he or she has achieved through effort.
3. Not all praise is helpful to the child.

Joo Seong-min (Chairman of the Korea Community Council)

As the first topic covered in 《Between Parents and Children》 is 'Conversation with Children', I believe that the most important thing between parents and children is conversation. Parents' warm hearts and the power of communication are truly amazing, but in reality, many parents only speak from the parent's perspective rather than considering the child's perspective. I hope that the child will understand the feelings of his parents. However, if Korean parents who only care about their children's grades rather than their children's happiness, emotions, and future read this book, I think they will be able to make eye contact and have this conversation with their children.
“When are you happy?”
“Can you feel your mother’s love?”

Also, “Between Parents and Children” has a lot to say to parents who have love but are lost or confused about how to make their children feel love.
It teaches parents the role of parents in understanding their children, communicating with each other rather than one-sidedly, helping children develop good habits, and realistically presenting the role of parents as eternal mentors who plan their children's future together.

A book that teaches the language of caring
Choi Hee-soo (Pureumi.com CEO)

I was happy the entire time I was reading the book “Between Parents and Children.” This is because I met and spoke with a great soul named Haim G. Guinert, an author who died at the middle age of 51, but lived a moving, creative, intelligent, and fulfilling life.

Everything the author talks about is the 'considerate love' that I realized while raising Purum and Choroki over the past 16 years. The author has left me and many parents with a specific way to convey through language the 'considerate love' that I feel abundantly in my heart, but always feel is lacking when conveying it to others in each real-life situation.
We were able to see into the distance because we were standing on the shoulders of giants. Please take a look at how refined and concrete the words Purum always talks about in her educational methods, “Accept your emotions as much as you want, but be firm with your actions” are expressed in a sophisticated and specific conversation in Between Parents and Children. Just follow along and your children's behavior will change.

A stepping stone between parents and children
Yongrin Moon (Professor, Department of Education, Seoul National University)

This book can be seen as a conversation manual between parents and children. First of all, this book theoretically explains well the educational meaning and effect of conversations between parents and children. And we analyze what potential conversation has in forming relationships between parents and children. Based on this analysis, the author very specifically lists the incorrect or distorted communication methods of parents who ruin their children. It eloquently explains how such conversations are destroying a child's foundation for growth.
Next, he tells us about desirable communication methods between parents and children. He provides examples of correct conversation in a fun and concise way by giving very specific examples.

Communication between parents and children is not an option, but a necessity. Two-way communication between parents and children is the most essential driving force for children's growth. This book by Dr. Haim Ginnert has played a significant role in improving the quality of communication between parents and children. In the future, these contributions will shine even brighter. I hope that many parents will be able to acquire serious and high-quality conversation skills through this book.
A golden fishery that helps you become a better parent
Koo Seong-ae (CEO of Blue Woosung)

There is something exciting about counseling and education. Adults don't change much, but children change easily. However, children can change as much as adults.
So what should parents change? Parents are human and children are human, so what more do we need? The important thing is that parents are adults. As an adult, you can be a proper parent only when you acknowledge that you have a tremendous influence on your child who will become an adult and make an effort to do so.

“Between Parents and Children,” which I happened to see and read at a bookstore a few years ago, is a book that tells us well how parents should treat their children as adults. This book will be a golden opportunity for those who want to become better parents without giving up their role as adults. We must keep in mind that parents are both humans and adults.