psychology of girls

Silence penetrates deep into women's experiences. It has only been 30 years since we began to openly discuss things that women can experience, such as rape, incest, domestic violence, and women's health. There have always been problems, but as times have changed, changes have occurred in public conscience, policies, and perceptions, and only then have these issues been addressed in our culture. And now it is time to break the silence once again. It's about girls' secret attack culture. In this culture of aggression, bullying is widespread, unique and destructive. Direct physical and verbal aggression, mainly used by boys, cannot be said to be a characteristic of this culture. In general, our culture prevents girls from disclosing conflicts and requires that forms of aggression be non-physical, indirect, and covert (p. 9).

When we agree that nice girls can be angry and nice girls can be mean, we can bridge the social desert between “nice” and “naughty.” When girls have more positive vocabulary to tell each other the truth, more girls will speak up. You will answer your own problems and solve your relationship mysteries. What greater gift is there for girls than the ability to speak their truth and honor the truth of their peers? If we become a society that values ​​all of girls' emotions, they too will be able to enjoy the freedom that comes from honest relationships. You will be able to live without fear of abandonment. (Page 373)

As I met several girls, I realized that I was not the only one who felt that way. It was amazing that we shared similar memories and emotions and that someone else understood what was in our hearts. That comfort touched my heart deeply, and it opened unexpected doors that we could enter together. If memories of bullying were the beginning of this book, it ended with more questions and answers about the culture we live in, how girls treat each other, and ourselves, who we always imagined to be alone (p. 17).