Raising happiness in children (10 steps to raising a happy child)

What is the most important thing parents will pass on to their children? As a parent, you probably want to give everything you have. However, I think the most important thing is ‘happiness’. Happiness is the greatest gift parents can give their children. The author of this book says that happiness can be fostered by parents. -4 p (from Professor Yongrin Moon’s recommendation)

Depression isn't the only problem. Children raised by mothers with anxiety also become anxious along with their mothers. I also tend to have anxiety. Therefore, if I do not put on the oxygen mask first, for example, if I do not get the necessary sleep or exercise, I will fall into depression or chronic anxiety will continue, which will be difficult for my children. Actions that make me happy also make my child happy. – 23p (From Let parents wear oxygen masks first)

There are two ways to help children create a ‘happy village.’ First, it teaches children the skills to find friends and develop friendships. The power to form good relationships with others has a great impact on happiness not only during childhood but throughout one's life. Children who are continuously ostracized by their peer group have many problems. For example, these children do not follow laws or rules well, have difficulty keeping up with school classes, and may suffer from mental illness, both major and minor. To borrow a phrase from Daniel Goleman, children who have high emotional and social intelligence and know how to form healthy interpersonal relationships grow up ‘richly.’ -59p (From Let’s help build a happy village)

The simplest way to instill a growth mindset in your child is praise. Parents naturally encourage and praise their children. We often praise things like this to help build our child’s confidence. "You can do it. “Because he’s a smart kid.” But this is not good. In other words, praise in the form of a fixed mindset of being smart may be what a child wants to hear. But this is exactly what can create problems. Parents should give more constructive praise. Just like this. “I just believe that you can do it if you just focus” – 108p (From Let’s Expect Effort and Joy, Not Perfection)

Many people think that perfectionism is the driving force behind becoming the best in their field, but this is a complete illusion. Perfectionism may seem like a highway to success at first glance, but it is not, and it is not the road to happiness. Rather, perfectionism is an obstacle to success and happiness. This is because we are dominated by negative emotions such as fear, frustration, and disappointment, and we always feel dissatisfied. Perfectionists do not enjoy success because they are always obsessed with the idea that they could have done better. – 113p (from Let’s expect effort and joy, not perfection)

Even though I know that I have dozens of opportunities every day to choose the path to happiness between pessimism and optimism, forgiveness and anger, I often pass by the intersection without knowing where to turn. There are countless crossroads in life, but there are not many paths to happiness. In this chapter, let's think about the choices we must make for our children's happiness. So what's different? Children can be taught to read the signposts to happiness, and parents themselves can choose the same course. Isn't it cool? -131p (From Developing Gratitude, Forgiveness, and Optimism)

In order for children to live happy lives, we need to teach them how to manage and express negative emotions. Uncomfortable emotions like anger, sadness, and anxiety are not necessarily bad things. These feelings are a warning to people that they need to get out of the current situation, and are also a signal that tells them how deep their bond with the other person is. However, negative emotions can have a negative impact if not managed properly. -p. 166 (From Developing Emotional Intelligence in Children)