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Imposter

Imposter

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  • Area: Parent Education
  • Composition: 312 pages | 149*210mm
  • Author: Lisa Son
  • Publisher: 21st Century Books
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Prologue: “Mom, I have so many thoughts in my head!”
Introduction: Imposters begin in childhood

Chapter 1
The first metacognitive thinking method to take off the mask,
The road to happiness is bumpy

People who believe their success is fake
Why conscientious and excellent students feel anxious
The easiest mask to wear, test scores
What's Behind Perfect Results
The ‘way of thinking’ necessary for everyone’s growth
Everyone has different ways of reaching their goals.
The stereotype that ‘a mature person is mature’
Why masks are dangerous
How to praise without being afraid of success
Let go of the idea that you have to do as well as others.
What’s more important than comparison is doing my best
The moment you reveal your imperfect self, metacognition begins.
“We will continue to learn and learn.”

[Summary] How to practice metacognition for true happiness

Chapter 2
The second metacognitive thinking method to take off the mask,
Every child goes through unknown periods.

The mindset of parents who believe that their child was originally good at it.
The dangers of imposter parents raising imposter children.
Ability to step away from the present and think about the future
What you learn today you may forget tomorrow
Mistakes that erase past trials and errors from memory
Imposters who are afraid of feedback
When ‘giving up’ is necessary from a metacognitive perspective
To avoid passing down masks...
Why freshmen are at high risk of becoming imposters
The idea that you ‘already know everything’ is an illusion.
A word of advice for children who grow up early
A child wearing a good daughter mask becomes a perfectionist mother.
Think about the wrong reasons rather than the right reasons
We need to get rid of the anxiety of ‘I’m the only one who doesn’t know’

[Summary] Metacognitive practice to overcome hindsight bias

Chapter 3
The third metacognitive thinking method to take off the mask,
True humility is knowing how to ask for help

The moment the virtue of humility becomes a mask
“Why are you acting so proud?”
Emphasizing the ugly side is not metacognition.
Why can't I trust my child to have studied enough?
It's not humility that motivates, it's interest
I expect that if I unconditionally agree, they will like me.
Problems that arise when you only focus on what you lack
The psychology of wanting to do well but fearing reward
Is it a good thing to take responsibility for everything yourself?
Practice looking at yourself objectively first
Children also develop their parents’ metacognition.
It's not humility that discourages a child
We can be good teachers to each other
Who can set the most accurate standards?
Metacognitive humility, acknowledging my strengths

[Summary] How to practice metacognition for healthy humility

Chapter 4
‘Learning to get caught’ for both parents and children

Can I live wearing a mask for the rest of my life?
Even getting caught requires learning.
Children who abandon metacognition for fear of disappointing their parents
Prerequisites for executing sneak learning
With the mindset of ‘let’s try a little more’
You can choose the moment you take off your mask.
How to make healthy mask play possible
The best mask is myself

Epilogue: A way of thinking for parents who are still living as imposters
Acknowledgments
Acknowledgment
references

into the book

The first reason I wrote this book was because I wanted to share the process of change and how I found my true self after living while wearing a mask as an imposter. But there is another reason. This is because I wanted to teach Korean readers, who have become accustomed to masks and have difficulty revealing and expressing themselves, how to use metacognition to meet their true selves. While organizing psychological experiments related to imposterism, I thought it was necessary to consider why people wear imposter masks and why they should maintain or take off those masks.
– From 〈Introduction〉

Children first learn to express their emotions through their parents. Just because a child learns to express emotions does not mean that he or she will express all the thoughts he or she has had. Metacognition is thoughts hidden inside, and it is entirely up to the child to choose which of them to unfold and what to keep inside. Although it is important to respect a child's choices, parents must also guide their children to avoid falling into imposterism. First of all, it is best to allow your child to cry when they want to cry, get angry when they want to be angry, and be irritated when they are irritated. When a child is able to express her own feelings, she is able to face and meet herself as she is.
– From 〈Why Masks Become Dangerous〉

Parents who only care about test scores place an enormous burden on their children. Even if your child gets 100 points, ask “How was the test?” Were there any issues that made you confused? “Which problem was the most difficult?” It is better to ask again. It is also important to encourage them that they do not need to become psychologically heavy as if their entire life depends on one exam. To a child who has been getting good grades, “That’s enough!” “My baby is really smart!” Rather than saying things like, “Good job!” But asking, “What do you want to learn more about in the future?” will be more helpful to your child’s growth. This is also consistent with metacognitive learning methods. When children are guided to monitor and control future learning directions rather than being hung up on past test scores, children can be free from the burden of learning.
– From 〈Getting rid of the idea that you have to do as well as others〉

After I became an adult, I always wore a mask because I thought, 'I wasn't particularly good at anything since I was young, I was just lucky and things turned out well.' So I was always anxious. However, as I watched my children eventually achieve through effort despite their shortcomings, I looked back on my past as well. As I watched the children make mistakes and overcome them, I realized that I did not get this far through luck alone. I realized that I was able to get to this point by practicing metacognitive monitoring and controlling my mistakes. Seeing children learning through trial and error gave me the courage to take off my mask.
– From 〈A Child Wearing a Good Daughter Mask Becomes a Perfectionist Mother〉

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