Being a good parent starts with self-healing

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Prologue_Emotional abuse, escaping from the wounds and inheritance

Part.1 Children growing up looking at the mirror of their parents
1 page. Parents who act as mirrors
Self-esteem and self-image that affect everything in life｜Low self-esteem, the cause lies in childhood｜Frequent scolding and criticism create critics in the child's mind｜Emotional abuse and neglect that parents commonly commit in their daily lives｜Emotional abuse and the effects of neglect on children｜Shame creates perfectionism｜Self-awareness｜Children see themselves through the mirror of their parents

Chapter 2. 7 types of parents who are bad mirrors for their children
〈Type 1〉Parents who neglect their children, unfit parents｜〈Type 2〉Parents who abandon or reject their children｜〈Type 3〉Parents who suffocate their children emotionally, try to possess them, or interfere in everything 〈Type 4〉Parents who are overly controlling or Tyrannical parents｜〈Type 5〉Perfectionistic parents｜〈Type 6〉Parents who overly criticize or shame people｜〈Type 7〉Parents who only think about themselves, narcissistic parents

Chapter 3. The body is a mirror that reflects our inner self.
People who cling to mirrors VS People who avoid mirrors | How is body image created? | The effects of emotional abuse, neglect, or suffocating parents on a child's body image | Body problems may actually be a danger signal | My body and reconnect

Part2. Breaking the distorted mirror reflected by parents
Chapter 4. Realizing the distorted mirror reflected by your parents
Seeing the facts as they are and releasing pent-up emotions｜Putting responsibility for abuse or neglect on the parents, not me, and rejecting the parents' projections｜Replacing shame into justified anger｜Clarifying and refuting the 'negative core beliefs' instilled by parents ｜

Chapter 5. You can be a good parent when you are emotionally separated from your parents
Emotional separation and individuation | Closeness | Confronting the abusive parent with the truth | Untangling the relationship with the abuser | Facing the pain and confusion caused by emotional separation

Chapter 6. Free yourself from the voice in your mind that criticizes and reprimands you.
The voice that criticizes you in your mind｜Get to know the critic in your mind｜Get away from the critic in your mind｜When you go beyond criticism and destroy yourself｜Change the voice that criticizes and ridicules to a positive and supportive voice

Part 3. Creating a new mirror that shows the true self
Chapter 7. discovering my true self
Reconnecting with my body and my emotions｜Learning about myself through emotions｜Knowing what my emotions are can help me change them｜Discovering my essence｜Idealized self-image makes us unhappy

Chapter 8. What I didn't receive as a child, now I give it to myself
Become an ‘empathetic mirror’ to yourself｜ Create a caring inner voice｜Create healthy boundaries｜Find balance in life｜How well do I care for myself?｜Learn to soothe myself in healthy ways｜How my parents treated me me treating myself in a way

Chapter 9. learning to love my body
Communicating with my body｜The body is a good teacher｜The way my parents treated my body, the way I treat my body｜Being thankful for my body｜Loving myself

Part 4. Healing the wounded child within me
Chapter 10. If you have been neglected, rejected, or abandoned by your parents
Pay attention to yourself｜The importance of contact with people｜Not abandoning yourself｜Another form of deprivation, indulgence and indulgence｜Stop attacking yourself｜Redirect your anger｜Stop ‘covering your parents’｜ Become aware of your own worth and lovability

Chapter 11. If your parents are overprotective or emotionally suffocating
Mama's Boy Joshua | Healing the Wounds of Emotional Incest | Action Steps for Healing

Chapter 12. If you are severely controlled or dominated by your parents
Making it clear that you are no longer being controlled | How to reclaim your power | Continuing to practice loving yourself

Chapter 13 If you grew up with overly critical, shaming, or perfectionistic parents.
Shame and guilt are different｜If you have externalized shame｜If you have internalized shame｜How do you get rid of shame?｜Confronting messages received from perfectionistic parents

Chapter 14. If you have parents who only think about themselves or narcissistic parents
Creating an independent self | Allow yourself to experience life | Discover the creativity within you | Focus on cultivating your inner life | Ask for outside help

Epilogue_Continuing healing