{"product_id":"둘째는-다르다","title":"The Second Child Is Different","description":"Description\n\nA smart approach to raising two children — turning rivals into best friends.\n\nSibling conflict and competition are common in family life. The firstborn, who once had the family's full love and attention, suddenly experiences that love being shared when a sibling arrives. The second child, on the other hand, has never known what it's like to have a parent's love all to themselves — from birth, they've had to share attention with their older sibling. Because of this, they instinctively feel a kind of hunger for it. Despite parents' hopes that their children will grow up as each other's closest friends, tension often lingers between siblings.\n\nThis book examines how children raised together develop their own individuality and sense of initiative amid jealousy and competition, and introduces sibling-parenting strategies that minimize conflict while helping each child's talents shine. It also features columns from parents raising twins, brother-sister pairs, sisters, and brothers, offering hints on parenting approaches suited to different sibling dynamics.\n\nThe firstborn craves attention, the second child craves recognition — each child wants love in a different way.\n\nMany parents decide to have a second child because their firstborn seems lonely — following mom around the house, or sitting alone playing in the sandbox at the playground. But contrary to parents' hopes that siblings will lean on each other and get along in this tough world, households with two or more children often struggle with constant sibling fights. Parents get headaches trying to mediate between their kids. The triggers vary — toys, snacks, clothes, shoes — but at the heart of most sibling conflicts lies a deeper developmental need: the desire for parental recognition, or the search for one's own identity. That's why fights tend to break out when mom or dad is nearby — kids are constantly sending an unspoken message, asking their parents to take their side.\n\nIf you've ever wondered how to help your children get along and look out for each other while keeping conflict to a minimum, this book offers real solutions.\n\nIs the second child really different? Yes, they are!\n\nPsychologist Alfred Adler once said, \"It is a mistake to assume that children in the same family grow up in identical environments. While they share common ground as members of a family, each child's psychological environment differs according to birth order.\"\n\nDifferences between firstborns and secondborns are easy to spot. Firstborns tend to be more diligent and conservative, while secondborns respond more quickly to novelty and change. Firstborns often act mature beyond their years, while secondborns are more attuned to their parents' emotions and often become the family's charmer, soaking up affection. Secondborns also tend to be especially sensitive to competition and highly self-driven, which often leads them to great achievements — think of Guus Hiddink, the coach who led the Korean national team to the semifinals of the World Cup, or Kim Yuna, who rose from a country with little figure skating tradition to become a world champion.\n\nDespite these clear differences between siblings, most parents raising a second child rely on what they learned raising the first — only to find themselves confused when their second child turns out to have a completely different personality and behavior. This book digs into what makes second children different from firstborns, and shows parents how they can help each child's unique talents bloom.","brand":"IBOOKPARK","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":49623953998052,"sku":"9791188007158","price":23.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0831\/9788\/6692\/files\/file_41-1.jpg?v=1786423330","url":"https:\/\/ibookpark.com\/en\/products\/%eb%91%98%ec%a7%b8%eb%8a%94-%eb%8b%a4%eb%a5%b4%eb%8b%a4","provider":"IBOOKPARK","version":"1.0","type":"link"}