{"product_id":"엄마가-아이를-아프게-한다","title":"When Mothers Hurt Their Children","description":"Description\n\nPrologue - When Mothers Hurt Their Children\n\nPART 1: A Mother's Letter of Reflection to Her Child\nI Never Wanted to Become a Mother Like My Mother\nDoes a Child Only Deserve Love After Achieving Something?\nThe Uncomfortable Truth That the Family Can Be a Blind Spot for Human Rights\nIf You Truly Want Your Child to Be Happy\nMothers Who Turn Away from Their Children's Dark Feelings\nOnly Taking Care of Appearances\nMothers Who Just Follow What Others Do\nThinking It's Enough If Only My Own Child Succeeds\n\nPART 2: The Behavioral Unit of a Mother Who Lives Wrapped Up in Her Child — \"Inclusion\"\nMothers Who Live Their Whole Lives \"Including\" Their Children\nThe Korean Version of \"A Woman's Life\"\nWhat's Wrong with Being a Stay-at-Home Dad?\nFeeling Guilty Whether You Include Them or Not\nWanting \"Salvation\" as a Family Unit, Too\nDiligently Playing Only the Role of Mother\nIs the Mother Running This Race Alone?\nA Child Is Not a Mother's Mercenary\nWounds Given Without Knowing\nTurn Down the Volume of Your Mother's Voice\n\nPART 3: Social and Cultural Customs That Make Being a Mother So Hard\nIf You Don't Study, You'll Fail in Life\nWhy Does the Mother Have to Play the Father's Role?\nRaising a Child with Money, and Educating a Child to Only Earn Money\nLiving by the Modern Version of the \"Three Obediences\"\nFollowing in Grandmother's Footsteps as a Mother, Too\nA Society That Neglects Emotional Health\nIs Saving Face Really So Important?\nOthers Exist, and So Do I\nDo We Really Prefer a Child Who Acts \"Grown-Up\"?\n\nPART 4: Looking Back on Childhood\nHealing the Wounds of Childhood\nWhat Do I Have to Do to Please My Mother?\nA Daughter Living as Her Mother's Satellite\nNo Child Is Born That Way\nA Child Who Only Understands Herself, a Child Who Only Watches Others' Reactions\nFor Children, Their Parents' Fights Are as Terrifying as War\nFeelings That Can Only Be Expressed as \"Irritation\"\nDo Not Strike Even with a Flower\n\nPART 5: Becoming an Adult Mother Who Has Healed Her Childhood Wounds\nAcknowledge Yourself\nLet's Go Back to Childhood\nThe Light of Hope Overcomes the Darkness of Despair\nNo One Is Free from Their Past\nBecoming a Mother Doesn't Happen Overnight\n\nPART 6: A Good Mother Who Empathizes with Her Child's Heart\nReading and Understanding the Wavering Look in a Child's Eyes\nHow Should We Convey the World of Feelings?\nChanging Yourself Is the First Step to Improving the Relationship\nChange for Us\nBreaking Free from Complexes\nDon't Raise a Child Who Lives for Their Mother\n\n■ Voices of Change\nA Child Who Struggled to Please Her Mother\nOthers Notice the Change, Too\nOur Mom Has Changed\nFinding My Own Heart\nPrecious Tears\n\n■ Epilogue - Living to Love Your Child\n\nInside the Book\n\nI was sitting at a donut shop, having ordered a cup of coffee while waiting for someone. Without meaning to, I ended up overhearing a conversation between a young mother and her son, who looked to be about a fourth grader, as they shared donuts at the table next to mine. It seemed the two of them had come out for a quiet talk together. But listening in, it felt less like a conversation and more like the mother talking on her own. The child said little, eating quietly with a sullen expression. Whenever he did try to speak, his mother would cut him off before he finished, saying, \"But...\" I couldn't catch all the details, but it seemed like she was saying, \"I know what you're trying to say, but...\" and steering the topic elsewhere. At one point, she even scolded him for \"not keeping his promise to Mom.\"\n\nI worried that when she got home, this mother would believe she had had a thorough heart-to-heart with her child. These days, young mothers, unlike mothers of the past, may be confident that they \"talk about everything\" with their children. But I wonder whether mothers are truly listening to and understanding their children's hearts — or even trying to. Lately, I've noticed more and more concerning moments where mothers seem to be (gently and elegantly) commanding and directing their children one-sidedly, and I worry that children are suffering under such treatment. And yet, looking closely, it seems mothers themselves don't even realize they are hurting their children.\n_pp. 6-7\n\nEvery mother has probably had the experience, at least once, of being startled by the sound of her own voice raised at her child. Haven't you ever been caught off guard when that very sound — the one that once frightened you as a child, so long ago — suddenly burst out of your own mouth? Looking at your child's bewildered face after you've shouted, you may vividly see your own childhood feelings reflected back at you: the sadness of feeling misunderstood by your own mother, and the child you once were.","brand":"IBOOKPARK","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":49623677370596,"sku":"1324752858","price":20.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0831\/9788\/6692\/files\/x9788991731578.jpg?v=1786421218","url":"https:\/\/ibookpark.com\/en\/products\/%ec%97%84%eb%a7%88%ea%b0%80-%ec%95%84%ec%9d%b4%eb%a5%bc-%ec%95%84%ed%94%84%ea%b2%8c-%ed%95%9c%eb%8b%a4","provider":"IBOOKPARK","version":"1.0","type":"link"}