{"product_id":"엄마도-상처받는다-10대-아이와의-기싸움에-지친-부모","title":"Even Moms Get Hurt: Psychology For Parents Exhausted By Power Struggles With Their Teens","description":"Description\n\nPrologue - Afraid of Your Child's Changes During Adolescence? 5\n\nChapter 1. \"Can't You Be a Little Sweeter to Me?\" - Looking Into the Wounds in Parents' Hearts\nParent's Heart 1 - Parents Who Can't Admit Their Own Wounds 15\nParent's Heart 2 - The Real Reason You Resent Your Child Is Yourself 34\nParent's Heart 3 - Just Waiting for Adolescence to Pass 45\nParent's Heart 4 - Parents Are More Anxious Than Their Teens 58\nParent's Heart 5 - When the Parenting Role Takes a Backseat to Grades 70\nParent's Heart 6 - Parents Decide Everything Else, But Studying Is Up to the Child? 82\nParent's Heart 7 - \"We Weren't Like That When We Were Young\" 92\n\nChapter 2. \"Can't I Just Do Things My Way?\" - Practicing Acceptance of Your Child's Changes\nChild's Heart 1 - Adolescence: A Sign It's Time to Respect Your Child 105\nChild's Heart 2 - Rebellion Is Proof Your Child Is Growing 114\nChild's Heart 3 - Kids Who Curse to Hide Their Anxiety 126\nChild's Heart 4 - Parents Can't Solve Their Child's Friend Conflicts Directly 138\nChild's Heart 5 - Why Do They Hate Home So Much? 150\nChild's Heart 6 - Could Your Child Have Teen Depression? 162\nChild's Heart 7 - Children Preparing for Suicide in the Prime of Their Youth 176\nChild's Heart 8 - Perfectionism: A Life That Confines Itself 186\nAppendix - Factors That Encourage a Teen's Deviant Behavior 200\n\nChapter 3. \"Adolescence: A Time When Parents and Children Grow Together\" - Building a New Kind of Relationship With Your Teen\nSolution 1 - Instead of Fighting Back Equally, Read Your Child's Mood 211\nSolution 2 - Using Positive Comparisons to Build Self-Esteem 224\nSolution 3 - What Kids Really Want to Hear 239\nSolution 4 - Working Together With Teachers 251\nSolution 5 - How to Talk With Your Child Without Fighting 264\nSolution 6 - Don't Be Fooled by Appearances; Look at the Person Inside 272\nSolution 7 - Traits of Teens Going Through a Healthy Adolescence 281\n\nInside the Book\n\nBeing drawn to a child who is trying to become independent is not the child's problem but the parent's. The emptiness and loneliness I feel as a parent are not given to me by my child. It is simply that a problem I already had within myself became attached to my child, and when that object disappears, the problem resurfaces. To solve this, instead of holding onto the child, I need to find a way to manage myself. When a child shows rebellion during adolescence, it's also a chance for the parent to practice standing on their own again.\n- p.31, from \"Parents Who Can't Admit Their Own Wounds\"\n\nA parent who resents their child for no clear reason should first look inward. A child who resembles the parent can feel endearing, or a child who is different can feel fascinating. But when everything is interpreted in the opposite, negative way, it's because of the parent's own dissatisfaction, unhealthy thoughts, or unresolved emotions. In these cases, unbearable anger and explosive outbursts tend to repeat themselves. Afterward, the parent is left with intense self-blame, wondering, \"Why did I get so angry again?\" This leaves both mind and body exhausted, as conflicts with a teenage child drag on without ever really being resolved.\n- p.43, from \"The Real Reason You Resent Your Child Is Yourself\"\n\nBecause of rigid ideas like \"you have to concentrate well\" or \"studying should be fun,\" I kept dismissing my child's true feelings. Perhaps, deep down, I wanted studying to be enjoyable because I hoped it would be less hard on my child—and because it would make me feel less guilty for making them study in the first place. But whenever I heard them complain about how hard it was, I'd feel hurt, and at the same time feel as if their unhappiness were somehow my fault, which only made me more upset. In truth, though, children are just trying to put their struggles into words so their parents will understand how hard it is for them.\n- p.84, from \"Parents Decide Everything Else, But Studying Is Up to the Child?\"\n\nAdolescence is a time of shifting emotions and a search for identity, during which teens often experience deep feelings of inferiority. Terrified that others might notice this insecurity, they act out aggressively instead—showing irritation and anger, sometimes even using coarse language—so that no one can see the fear and anxiety hidden underneath.","brand":"IBOOKPARK","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":49623757455588,"sku":"1383156497","price":20.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0831\/9788\/6692\/files\/x9788901154138.jpg?v=1786421584","url":"https:\/\/ibookpark.com\/en\/products\/%ec%97%84%eb%a7%88%eb%8f%84-%ec%83%81%ec%b2%98%eb%b0%9b%eb%8a%94%eb%8b%a4-10%eb%8c%80-%ec%95%84%ec%9d%b4%ec%99%80%ec%9d%98-%ea%b8%b0%ec%8b%b8%ec%9b%80%ec%97%90-%ec%a7%80%ec%b9%9c-%eb%b6%80%eb%aa%a8","provider":"IBOOKPARK","version":"1.0","type":"link"}