{"product_id":"왜-아이에게-그런-말을-했을까","title":"Why Did I Say That to My Child","description":"Description\nA Word from the Author: Before It's Too Late, For the True Happiness of Your Family\n\nCHAPTER 1: I Never Taught My Child to Love Themselves\nWords that erase presence: \"Your friend means so much to you\" — Help your child protect themselves before their friends.\nWords that take away what matters: \"It's nothing, just let them have it\" — Teach your child to stand up for their fair interests.\nWords that create self-consciousness: \"Who would like you if you act like this?\" — Teach your child to be true to themselves.\nWords that misplace the blame: \"It's because you didn't try hard enough\" — Ease your child's guilt.\nWords that build emotional walls: \"What exactly are you lacking?\" — A parent's role goes beyond providing materially.\n\nCHAPTER 2: I Only Loved Half of My Child\nWords that suppress emotion: \"What's there to be embarrassed about? Speak up bravely\" — Acknowledge feelings instead of pressuring them.\nWords that demand false emotions: \"Even if you're sad, hold it in\" — Embrace even the difficult emotions.\nWords that push emotions aside: \"How dare you get angry?\" — Acknowledge the feeling, but set limits on the behavior.\nWords that restrict: \"Don't yell, don't cry, stop it\" — Raise a child who feels safe expressing themselves.\n\nCHAPTER 3: I Mistakenly Thought My Child Was Being Rude\nWords that provoke hostility: \"Don't you know any manners? Do you think your parents are a joke?\" — Give your child the experience of being respected.\nWords that shut down conversation: \"You shouldn't have done that\" — Ask gentle, open questions instead.\nWords that force a response: \"What do you mean you don't know?\" — Wait until your child is ready to speak on their own.\n\nCHAPTER 4: I Said Many Things That Backfired\nWords that attack self-esteem: \"See, I told you so\" — Focus on the future instead of the past.\nExcuses that lead to unhappiness: \"I did it all for you\" — Recognize that parents are imperfect too.\nNagging that kills appetite: \"Why won't you eat your vegetables? They're good for you\" — Children eat vegetables more willingly when not forced.\nWords that cause humiliation: \"Just do as you're told\" — Help your child understand the reasons behind the rules.\n\nCHAPTER 5: I Taught My Child to Live in Fear\nWords that threaten abandonment: \"Mommy's leaving without you\" — Don't turn your child into an anxious, fearful person.\nWords that make life feel frightening: \"You'll ruin your life if you keep this up\" — Discipline while helping them keep a positive sense of self.\nWords that make a child shrink back: \"The world is a scary place\" — Warn them, but also give them confidence that they can handle challenges.\n\nCHAPTER 6: I Made My Child's Appearance Worries Worse\nWords that create complexes: \"Sweetheart, you're not very pretty\" — Criticizing your child's looks is never okay.\nWords that distort values: \"My daughter is the prettiest!\" — Teach that charm comes from more than looks.\nWords that dismiss curiosity about appearance: \"You're too young to care so much about how you look\" — Allow some room for this natural curiosity.\nNagging that causes stress: \"You'll get fat if you eat too much\" — Encourage confident eating along with healthy moderation.\n\nCHAPTER 7: I Insulted My Child Without Realizing It\nWords that attack the person: \"You did it again?\" — Focus on the present and future, not past mistakes.\nWords that demean character: \"How many times do I have to tell you?\" — Speak with appeal, not insult.\nWords that unfairly accuse: \"All you do is play games?\" — Exaggerating problems never helps.\nWords that subtly insult: \"Are you stupid or something?\" — Check whether your words carry a hidden sting.\n\nCHAPTER 8: What I Regret Most Is Hitting and Scolding\nWords that ruin a child's life: \"Do you need to be hit to learn?\" — Words are stronger than a switch.\nVerbal abuse as painful as physical punishment: \"You're a hopeless case\" — Parents must learn to manage their own emotions.\nWords that accomplish nothing: \"I'll make a proper person out of you\" — Wait patiently with generous understanding and optimism.\nWords that can be worse than strictness: \"Fine, do whatever you want\" — Balance freedom with structure.\n\nCHAPTER 9: I Didn't Know How to Give Love\nWords that create passivity: \"Finish the book and I'll give you a kiss\" — Don't attach conditions to love.\nWords that instill guilt: \"I'm completely disappointed in you\" — Ask yourself if your expectations are too high.\nWords that prevent full joy: \"Good job, but...\" — Give your child praise without qualifications.\nWords that make a child a liar: \"Why can't you keep your promises?\" — Set promises together, with your child's agreement.\n\nCHAPTER 10: I Damaged My Child's Self-Esteem","brand":"IBOOKPARK","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":49623983882468,"sku":"201908290779","price":21.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0831\/9788\/6692\/files\/screen_shot_2019-08-29_at_6.58.21_pm.jpg?v=1786423445","url":"https:\/\/ibookpark.com\/en\/products\/%ec%99%9c-%ec%95%84%ec%9d%b4%ec%97%90%ea%b2%8c-%ea%b7%b8%eb%9f%b0-%eb%a7%90%ec%9d%84-%ed%96%88%ec%9d%84%ea%b9%8c","provider":"IBOOKPARK","version":"1.0","type":"link"}