child's self-esteem

“During the process of producing <A Child's Private Life>, I encountered numerous experiments and theories and was able to learn that self-esteem is a critical condition that determines a child's fate. A child who knows his or her own value, believes in his or her own abilities, and works hard is the person who can find happiness and success in life. These thoughts were also conveyed to many parents who heard <A Child's Private Life> through broadcasts and books, and aroused sympathy. When asked, “How can I raise my child properly?”, I can now say, “Self-esteem!” – From the opening text

There are many elements of children's education that parents need to prepare for their children's future, such as creativity, concentration, multiple intelligence, emotional intelligence, intelligence quotient, and self-directed learning. None of these are important things that should be neglected, but self-esteem takes precedence over anything else and is the most important factor to form in your child. This is because self-esteem is the foundation of all these things and the foundation that will help them grow bigger.
For about two years since the broadcast in 2008 and the publication of “A Child’s Private Life” in 2009, we have collected new parenting cases related to self-esteem, compiled advice from experts, analyzed successful leaders, and researched social problems caused by lack of self-esteem. did.

In addition to the parenting principles that parents should not miss for the child's self-esteem,
Provides specific ways to increase the self-esteem of parents, who are mirrors of their children.

This book analyzes the deficiencies felt by children due to their parents' incorrect way of educating their children and the problems that arise in our society as a result, and suggests the formation of proper self-esteem as a solution. In addition, the behavior of children in the process of forming self-esteem, or various behaviors that occur due to lack of self-esteem, are summarized and examined in 12 specific cases and the causes of these behaviors are analyzed. Through this, we reflect on parents' parenting attitudes and suggest practical ways to increase a child's self-esteem. And through the lives of six representative leaders who lead our society today, we look at how they independently managed their lives and what abilities they used to demonstrate self-esteem, making us think about the valuable lessons we must pass on to our children. Lastly, we analyze that parents' childhood parenting experiences have a significant impact on their child's parenting style, and provide directions for examining and improving parents' past and present so that incorrect parenting methods are not passed down to the next generation.

Self-esteem is so valuable that it is not a waste for parents to sit next to their children and talk about it every day.
Developing proper self-esteem is a task that all parents must do for their children's future.

Are our children really happy?

When we look around us, no matter how difficult things are, there are people who are able to endure them well and actually lead to success, while there are people who seem to have everything but always give up easily, saying it's "tough" or "difficult," and are unable to use their full abilities. There is. Where do these differences come from? It's because of self-esteem.

Self-esteem, that is, self-esteem, is the feeling that one is a precious being worthy of love and a capable person capable of achieving certain achievements. Also, even if you don't achieve results, you like yourself the way you are. A child with high self-esteem says, “I am a very precious person. Although I have many shortcomings, I have many more strengths, so no matter what difficult task I encounter, I will not give up and take on the challenge. If I don't give up on the challenge, there will definitely be good results. You can say, “I really like myself for trying hard even if I fail.”

Although it was not featured on the EBS documentary <A Child's Private Life> broadcast, the most heartbreaking thing among the interviews conducted by the production team between children with high self-esteem and children with low self-esteem was that when asked, “Are you happy now?”, the child with low self-esteem answered “No.” The fact is that they avoided answering. The children were only about 11 or 12 years old. It was an interview that revealed that differences in self-esteem have a big impact on children's happiness.

Many parents hope that their children will be socially successful by improving their learning ability through building self-esteem. However, self-esteem has power beyond improving learning ability. Forming proper self-esteem not only creates a positive body image and self-image of the child, enhances empathy, increases achievement, and ultimately brings success to the child, but also serves as the foundation for the child to grow up to be a truly happy person.

In Part 1 of this book, we look into the deficiencies that children feel due to their parents' incorrect way of educating their children, and analyze the problems that have arisen in our society due to those deficiencies.

How can I develop my child's self-esteem?

Building proper self-esteem is the key to raising your child into a happy adult. Through self-esteem, children learn how to communicate with empathy and consideration for others, gain persistence and problem-solving skills to overcome difficult challenges, and become more confident and willing to succeed than anyone else. In addition, through this, they fulfill the role of the most ideal leader in our society and bring to their children the ‘success and happiness’ that parents so desperately desire.

So how can you develop your child’s self-esteem?
Should we always praise our children as the best? Should I praise you for doing a good job? If you say to a child, “It’s a bit disappointing,” “Let’s try harder,” or “That doesn’t seem to work,” will it hurt the child’s self-esteem?
All parents agree on the need to increase their children's self-esteem, but they cannot help but tilt their heads when it comes to parenting methods to increase a child's self-esteem. In some ways, my child's current appearance and even various problematic behaviors may be a result of the parent's parenting attitude.

In Part 2 of this book, we look at the behavior of children in the process of forming self-esteem, or various behaviors that occur due to a lack of self-esteem, through 12 specific cases and analyze the causes. Through this, we reflect on our parenting attitudes as parents and suggest practical ways to increase a child's self-esteem.

Essential conditions for a successful leader

A true leader aims for a common goal with the members of the organization he or she belongs to, leads them down the right path, and further acknowledges the existence of those who have different goals and intentions than themselves, treats them fairly, and creates win-win, win-win relationships with them. This is a person who can provide direction.

In order to embrace others, you must first and foremost have a firm sense of self-esteem. This is because people who do not believe in themselves deep down cannot motivate others and passionately lead members toward a common vision.

A leader with high self-esteem has the wisdom and courage to wisely overcome difficulties. Anyone can make mistakes and experience failure. What is important is your attitude toward failure. Not all globally successful companies have had a smooth path. However, because these companies had leaders who confidently overcame difficulties and obstacles, they were able to turn crises into opportunities and lay the foundation for success.

In Part 3 of this book, we look at the lives of six representative leaders leading our society today and learn how they took control of their lives and became respected leaders. By looking at how successful leaders demonstrated their self-esteem, you will realize valuable lessons that you should pass on to your children.

My child's self-esteem depends on the parents

No parent wants their child to have low self-esteem. Therefore, I watch children's education programs on TV without fail and read children's education books diligently according to the child's growth. Also, whenever I have a question, I try to find the answer by searching the Internet. But even though we try so hard, why doesn’t everything go as our parents want?

In a way, it may be because the parents themselves were raised that way in the past. Parents' childhood parenting experience has a huge impact on raising their own children. And the self-esteem that is determined by the parenting experience is also passed down to the child. Therefore, in order to raise a child's self-esteem, parents must first check their self-esteem and regain confidence that they can do well on their own.

For children, the presence of parents is a mirror that reflects their own value. A child does not know who he is as well as an adult. As he looks in the mirror, he defines who he is. If parents are always irritable, depressed, bothered, and try to discipline their child with a scary face, the child will think that he or she is a useless person who irritates and depresses others. On the other hand, if their parents enjoy spending time with them and always smile warmly and happily, they think they are pretty good people who make others happy.
How are we reflecting the value of our children now? How do you build your child’s self-esteem?

From now on, as if trying to correct a child's wrong behavior, parents should carefully analyze their own parenting attitude and immediately change to a more proactive attitude when a problem is discovered in their parenting style.
A child's self-esteem can change at any time, and it entirely depends on the parents.