Description Prologue Chapter 1. Wise Parents Raise Their Children Slowly The kind of child who will succeed in the future Ask yourself whether you're truly qualified to be a parent When it comes to raising children, slowness isn't optional—it's essential What we must learn from Ladakh's parenting methods Common misunderstandings about 'raising children slowly' The real meaning of raising children slowly—one step behind, one step ahead Why children's stress is more dangerous than we think Four essential virtues of parents who raise their children slowly Chapter 2. Let Them Play Freely Until Age Five Four mistakes parents easily make Never trust IQ scores completely The surprising secrets hidden in children's brains Why I didn't send Jeong-mo to a gifted academy Your child might just be a 'Late Bloomer' Chapter 3. Every Child Needs a Different Learning Method What are you teaching your child right now? Every child needs a different learning method Finding the learning method that's right for your child The answer lies in what your child loves most Why I still send Kyung-mo to school Four principles working mothers should follow Why fathers are absolutely essential to a child's learning Chapter 4. What I Learned Raising Two Children No dream is ever truly impossible Why I chose child psychiatry Teaching my husband how to be a parent Even between siblings, a river flows What it means to become a parent, part 1 What it means to become a parent, part 2 The greatness of doing it together Chapter 5. 10 Principles for Raising Children Slowly Treat emotional control like your underwear—keep it in check Don't scold your child even when they lie Do their homework for them, for their sake Negotiate with your child before punishing them Let them make mistakes on purpose When you don't understand the reason behind a behavior problem, just be patient first There's no better education than hands-on experience When you want to teach 'just a little more,' that's when you should stop Your child imitates everything about you Be together, but keep some distance Inside the Book "Let's just have them try it and see what happens—at least they'll gain something from it rather than nothing…" With thoughts like these, mothers try hard to shake off their anxiety and find peace of mind. But unfortunately, when it comes to a child's learning, a haphazard 'it'll work out somehow' approach never truly works. A learning method that works 100% for 99 children could cause serious harm to the one remaining child. And that one child could very well be yours. —From 'Four Mistakes Parents Easily Make' (pp. 81–82) The more educated a mother is, the more likely she is to mistake constant instruction and supervision over every detail of her child's learning as her rightful role as a mother. Such mothers refuse to believe that children are capable of learning and absorbing a great deal on their own, without being deliberately taught. They simply assume their child is someone who must be made to study, cared for, and kept in line by them. —From 'Four Mistakes Parents Easily Make' (p. 87) Australian parents, when their child shows faster development than others or excels in some area, deliberately keep it quiet and hidden. They fear their child might feel burdened or hurt because of it. Yet parents here, who boast about how smart their child is, seem to give no thought at all to how that might affect the child. —From 'Bragging About How Smart Your Child Is' (p. 89) The reason I can't help but worry about the 'gifted child' syndrome is that the number of patients coming to me because of its side effects keeps growing. And what's even more frightening is that, blinded by the idea of 'giftedness,' parents fail to notice when something is actually wrong with their child—sometimes even mistaking a psychological issue for a sign of giftedness. —From 'Why I Didn't Send Jeong-mo to a Gifted Academy' (p. 107) Being a working mother doesn't mean you can't help your child succeed academically. Conversely, being a stay-at-home mother doesn't guarantee that you will. —From 'Four Principles Working Mothers Should Follow' (p. 177) Not all fathers in the world can be the same, but there does seem to be at least one common principle: at least one parent—whether mother or father—needs to take a counterbalancing approach to the child's learning. Like a game of tug-of-war, when one side pulls toward learning…