Description Recommendation_A 'mother's growth parenting book' that helps you learn to love your child just as they are Prologue_A book that becomes a light for the tangled relationship between mother and child Part 1: The Mother Who Hurts, The Child Who Is Hurt PART 1 Did Mom Really Love Me? The 'Hurtful Mother' Created by the Fantasy of 'Mother' Five Types of Mothers Who Hurt PART 2 The Mother Trapped in Extreme Self-Love A Mother Who Loves Only Herself, Intensely Mother as the Heroine of Her Own Drama A Mother's Extreme Self-Love Fuels 'Anger' The Self-Absorbed Mother's Greatest Rival in Life: Her 'Daughter' PART 3 The Overly Obsessive Mother The 'Obsessive Mother' Who Believes Her Daughter's Life Is Her Own A Mother's Misguided Love Can Ruin Her Daughter's Marriage For an Obsessive Mother, 'Rejection' Means the Absence of Love PART 4 The Mother Who Tries to Control Everything The Trap Behind "It's All for Your Own Good!" The Controlling Mother's Powerful Weapons: Criticism, Blame, and Bullying The Unhappier the Mother, the Stronger Her 'Control' Over the Child PART 5 The Mother Who Needs to Be Cared For The Strange Relationship Where Mother Is the Child and Child Is the Mother The Ironic Fate of the Daughter Who Cares for Her Mother A Mother's Dependency Can Make Her Daughter's Whole Life Unhappy PART 6 The Neglectful or Violent Mother The 'Cold Mother' Who Bruises Her Child's Heart Children Raised Amid Abuse Develop Deep Roots of Anxiety Without a Mother's Protection, a Child Grows Up Withdrawn An Abused Child Becomes the Embodiment of Anger An Abused Daughter Becomes Lifelong Friends with Depression Part 2: Healing the Wounds Left by Mother PART 1 Looking at the False Messages Hidden in the Heart A Mother's Negative Messages Create an Unhealthy Sense of Self The Wounded Daughter's Greatest Task: Making Mother Happy The 'Lie and Truth Exercise' That Helps You See Yourself Clearly PART 2 Acknowledging the Painful Wounds Engraved in the Heart Writing a Letter About the Ways Mother Hurt You Expressing the Feelings You Had About the Negative Past Describing How the Negative Past Affects the Present Writing About What You Wish From Your Mother PART 3 Releasing Inner Anger and Sorrow Don't Bottle Up Sorrow and Anger—Release Them Letting Go of the Lingering Fantasy of the 'Good Mother' PART 4 Experiencing How Life Changes When Behavior Changes Action Guidelines That Transform the Relationship With Mother at Its Roots 'Non-Defensive Communication'—Winning in Confrontations With Mother Set Aside Guilt Toward Your Mother for a While PART 5 Drawing the Line Between Mother and Yourself Everyone Has the Right to Say "No." Act First, and the Other Person Will Change Too Don't Back Down, Even When Guilt and Anxiety Wash Over You PART 6 Deciding for Yourself the Relationship You Want Wise Choices for Moving Forward Things You Must Change Right Now for a Healthier Relationship If You Can't Cut Ties, Maintain at Least a Surface-Level Relationship With Your Mother PART 7 Cutting the Emotional Cord From Mother The Final Choice: Ending the Relationship With Mother Stand Boldly Against the Monster Called Guilt PART 8 When the Mother Who Hurt You Falls Ill A Mother's Illness Doesn't Erase the Wounds of the Past Put Your Own Needs Before Others' Epilogue_Finally Meeting the Good Mother Translator's Note_A Book of Strength and Comfort for All the Mothers and Daughters in the World Publisher's Review An emotional healing book for mothers struggling with parenting and relationships because of wounds received from their own mothers in childhood! If raising your own children as a mother feels difficult, you must find and heal the root cause of that difficulty! This book is a concrete, practical psychological healing guide that helps you raise your children with love! A 'mother's growth parenting book' that helps you learn to love your child just as they are. Many mothers read parenting books and seek out good parenting lectures because they want to raise their children well. They also listen closely to the advice of mothers who have already raised children, working hard to do right by their own. Yet despite wanting to raise their children well, they often find themselves saying and doing things that wound their child's heart, unable to build smooth relationships with their child or with others, and feeling that parenting is simply hard. If this sounds like you, it's time to look deeply within yourself.