"Managing your mood can change your life."
Instead of being dragged by your feelings,
calm the stormy emotions with psychological lessons. Lemon Psychology is a leading psychological counseling platform in China, known for providing easy access to consultations with psychological experts. Through its mobile app, over 5 million people have sought help from this counseling center, which has focused on individuals struggling to manage their moods or those affected and hurt by the overwhelming emotions of loved ones. The author has heard countless stories over the years from those who have ruined themselves by failing to manage their negative emotions. While the term 'ruin' may seem excessive, it is not incorrect. Such individuals damage their reputation, ruin their relationships, and ultimately, their lives. There have been stories of quiet individuals who suddenly lash out in anger when things don't go well, and tales of an office atmosphere swinging between extremes because of a boss with severe mood swings. These individuals slowly destroy themselves, tarnish their reputations, and ultimately ruin their relationships. Those who habitually express negative emotions lose far more than they gain.
Thus, managing one's mood is not easy. The events happening within our hearts are not trivial matters. Additionally, the frantic pace of daily life leaves little room to care for our emotions. We are busy with work or overwhelmed by household chores every day. Even when we do our best, all we receive in return are complaints and criticisms from our bosses. At home, misunderstandings and resentments arise among family members, leading to emotional wounds. Resentment, injustice, and anger accumulate in our hearts. However, we have never learned how to handle these tumultuous emotions.
"Why do I become a different person when I'm in a bad mood?"
The reason my mood doesn't align with my will is that I cannot manage my emotions properly.
Everyone expresses their feelings, albeit with varying degrees. It's common. However, if we cannot process our negative feelings internally and they manifest as a negative attitude, we end up showing a side of ourselves we do not wish to reveal. This not only leads to self-loathing but also leaves wounds on those we cherish. In such moments, we experience deep regret. Bad feelings are fleeting, but the ugly attitude displayed due to those feelings becomes a lasting label that follows us. How do you cope when you suffer losses simply because you cannot manage your own emotions?
The author states that one must learn emotional management to control their mood. Only by standing as the master of our emotions, rather than a slave to them, can we avoid being swayed by our feelings and present the image we wish to show. Therefore, this book begins with a discussion about mood but delves deeper into the various emotions that influence our mood. It will explain how emotions change us and introduce methods for coping with them. These methods include the necessity of controlling emotions, while also reassuring that it is okay not to suppress them. Depending on the situation and the emotion, the approach to handling them will vary.
Now, this book aims to help you find the source of your emotions and properly resolve negative feelings. By learning how to make your mood work for you through this book, you can enjoy a satisfying life free of regrets and misunderstandings.