Introduction: Reading Parenting Books Between Words and Reality 01. A Child's Inner Feelings — "If You Keep Crying, I'll Leave You Here" ● Understanding a Child's Hidden Emotions (Between Parent and Child) 02. Getting a Child to Sleep — Sleeping Peacefully Tonight ● Tips for Putting Children to Sleep (Putting a Child to Sleep Without Tears) 03. Child Development — When to Worry and When Not To ● Observing a Child's Developmental Process (Why Do Children Grow So Slowly?) 04. Self-Direction, Repetition, Focus — Do I Trust My Child? ● Raising a Self-Directed Child (The Secret of Childhood / The Absorbent Mind) 05. Play — Children Play with Their "Bodies" and "Words" ● The Language of Children's World: Play (Parents Who Connect with Their Children Play Differently / Tools of the Mind: Vygotskian Early Childhood Education) 06. A Child's Social Life — Relationships Are Hard for Children Too ● Understanding Peer Groups (The Hidden Life of Children That Adults Rarely Know) 07. Siblings — Intruder, Troublemaker, or Eternal Rival? ● The Struggle for Recognition Among Siblings (Why Do Our Angelic Kids Fight So Much?) 08. Behavior Modification — The "Becoming a Kind Older Brother" Project ● The ABCs of Behavior Modification (Kazdin Method Parenting) 09. Discipline — Just Because You Want It Doesn't Mean You Can Have It ● Words That Provoke Conflict vs. Words That Encourage Thinking (How Children Learn Responsibility) 10. Punishment — Punishment Also Requires Care ● "Time-In" Matters More Than "Time-Out" (Parenting Without Four Things) 11. Encouragement — What Is Your Child Good At? ● Developing an Eye for Seeing Your Child Clearly (Becoming a Democratic Parent) 12. Active Listening — Are You Listening to Me? ● Listening Is an Active Process (Parent Effectiveness Training) Epilogue: What It Means to Raise a Child in Korea Excerpts from the Book ● A Child's Hidden Emotions To understand a child's heart, a hardened heart must soften. What is rigid must become tender. The moment a parent's words leave the bow and pierce a child's heart like an arrow, blood may flow from where it lands—or a flower may bloom. ● Putting a Child to Sleep There is no perfect age, timing, or situation for teaching a child to sleep alone. It depends entirely on the parents' choice—when the parents are ready, that is "ready enough." ● A Child's Developmental Process A person's "slow growth" is not an accident or a mistake of nature, but a trait perfectly suited to human development. Being "slow" is actually a dominant trait that allows better adaptation to one's environment. ● Raising a Self-Directed Child Before deciding to raise a self-directed child, ask yourself: "Am I living a self-directed life as a parent? Am I ready to show my child a model of an active life?" ● The Language of Children's World: Play What matters in play is not what you do, but how you do it. The same action can be ordinary in an everyday context, but becomes play when it enters the special context of play. ● Understanding Peer Groups It's naive to think we can simply keep children on the quiet side streets of friendship and never send them out onto the highway of group life. There are times a child must merge onto that highway—and sometimes, the child wants to. ● The Struggle for Recognition Among Siblings We say we love our children, but often it's merely an extension of self-love. Instead of favoring one child, parents need the mindset of favoring each child's unique individuality. ● The ABCs of Behavior Modification The path from heart to action is not a one-way street. Sometimes the heart moves us to act, but sometimes acting itself gives rise to feeling. ● When Correcting a Child Discipline begins with parents setting the boundaries of behavior in words, so the child can think for themselves. Parents can't dictate exactly how a child should think, but it is their responsibility to guide the child to think within acceptable limits. ● Punishment: "Time-In" Matters More Than "Time-Out" If you can discipline a child without anger or yelling, that is far better. Planning ahead and following through consistently can reduce unnecessary punishment. For children born to be loved to truly grow up feeling their parents' love, even punishment must be given with care. ● Praise: Developing an Eye for Seeing Your Child...