Description Foreword - Not a Single Child in This World Needs to Be Disciplined Part 1 | What Happens Between a Child's Brain and Body Chapter 1 - Understanding Your Child's Neural Platform Every behavior has a reason / The 'platform': the interactive system between brain and body / The platform as a roadmap toward appropriate challenges / What changes when you understand the platform / Parents have platforms too / Shifting the focus of parenting from behavior to the nervous system Chapter 2 - Exploring Safety and Love Why safety detection goes wrong / The stress that weakens a child's platform / Two families, two different approaches / A two-step method for giving children a sense of safety / Everything begins with safety Chapter 3 - Three Behavioral Signals That Reveal a Child's Heart Behavior as the key clue to nervous system state / A simple introduction to the nervous system / The green pathway / The red pathway / The blue pathway / Mixed pathways / Preparing for every pathway / Using color pathways to understand the body's budget / Misbehavior vs. behavior from a vulnerable platform / A three-step check-in to return to the green pathway / Connecting with your child through deep empathy Part 2 | Practicing to Regulate Mind and Body Chapter 4 - Building Your Child's Self-Regulation Facing life's unexpected moments / Self-regulation isn't built overnight / The power of 'co-regulation' in developing self-control / You don't have to be a perfect parent / Children grow stronger through challenges / The right size of challenge for a child / Mirror neurons and the parent's platform / What matters more than words / Co-regulation builds love and trust / Care is always a two-way exchange / 'LOVE': strengthening serve and return / Being the person who simply stays close to your child / The blessings that come from co-regulation Chapter 5 - Parents Need Care, Too If only I had known then what I know now / How parents affect a child's nervous system / Parents trapped in negativity bias / What children need most is a healthy parent / Checking in on your own self-care / Sleep as a life-support system / We all need other people / Self-care begins with awareness / Self-compassion that nurtures the mind / Breathing techniques that guide you back to the green pathway / Compassion for your own childhood / What matters isn't a perfect childhood, but awareness / Practicing to fill your own body budget Chapter 6 - How Children Understand the World Through Their Senses How does the body influence behavior? / Sensory experiences that shape thoughts and emotions / Sensory responses vary widely from child to child / Feelings within the body: interoception / Sensing sound: hearing / Sensing sight: vision / Sensing touch: the skin / Sensing taste: the tongue / Sensing smell: olfaction / Sensing one's own body: proprioception / Sensing balance: the vestibular system / Respecting your child's physical responses / Building resilience through awareness of bodily signals Part 3 | Solving Problems Together, Without Scolding Chapter 7 - Ages 0-1: Days of Joy and Chaos From birth to six months / Responding instantly to your baby's cues / Developing your own parenting style together with your baby / How to become a responsive parent / Reading the signals behind a crying baby / Establishing nighttime sleep patterns / Months 7 to 12 / Communicating through play / The first year: laying the foundation for brain-body connection Chapter 8 - Toddlerhood: Children Learning About the World Basic knowledge of toddler development / Tantrums and limit-testing behavior / Setting firm and clear limits / The difference between top-down and bottom-up behavior / Toddlers' self-control is just beginning to form / What can and cannot be taught to toddlers / When children display bottom-up behavior / Effective approaches to a child's bottom-up responses / When children display top-down behavior / Play as a powerful tool for developing top-down abilities Chapter 9 - School Age: Learning the Strength of the Mind Sibling rivalry / Play as a powerful driver of child development / How to engage in interactive play with your child / What's needed for parent-involved play / Principles of parent-involved play / Play as exercise for the brain / Wonderful and...