Description "The secret words wise parents use to raise smart, capable children!" For parents who don't want to harm their child through mistaken discipline, this book gathers essential parenting principles into one volume. Parents often struggle when their child's words and actions don't sit well with them—a child who's frustratingly slow at everything, one who throws tantrums at the store and causes a scene in public, one who tosses socks anywhere without a thought, one who only does things when told repeatedly, one who skips homework and skips lessons, one who doesn't seem bothered even after scoring 20 out of 100 on a dictation test, one who steals, one who rebels, one who hits a younger sibling, one who's started acting cheeky now that puberty has begun... This book is filled with stories about all kinds of children, from toddlers to teens. In these situations, what parents want most is a clear diagnosis and solution for why their children act and speak this way. The author—head of a renowned parenting counseling center and a trusted parenting mentor—carefully analyzes the psychology behind children's words and actions, and shows parents how to clean up their own "word bowl" so they can truly communicate with their kids. Reading this book feels like meeting the author in person for counseling and having your problems resolved. You might wonder, "Can a child really change just because a parent changes their words a little?" But once you learn the secret words wise parents use to raise smart, capable children, the relationship between parent and child changes remarkably. Asking children for their opinion works far better than giving orders or making requests. If you keep in mind this book's core parenting principles—understanding, accepting, empathizing, and listening—and give your child choices, your child will in turn respect your opinion. Then, when you express your feelings and offer encouragement, children feel like they're floating on air, and they develop the independence to accomplish things on their own. Chapter 1 offers real-life parenting solutions for parents who say, "I must be a bad mom. I hate myself." Chapter 2 teaches how to understand your child's feelings and give them courage, showing that "simply understanding your child's heart is enough." Chapter 3 kindly guides parents who ask, "How do I comfort my child's heart?" toward warm, loving discipline. Chapter 4 introduces ways to help children grow boldly beyond conventional limits, for wonderful moms who want to raise their kids well. For parents who are full of love for their children but struggle to express it properly, this book will help you find the words to listen closely to your child, comfort their heart warmly, and respond with understanding, acceptance, and empathy. These words will strengthen the parent-child relationship, boost your child's self-esteem, and help build their independence.