Description Prologue Part 1 – Between the First and Second Child: The Closest yet Farthest, the Most Intimate yet Most Difficult Relationship 1. Why Do We Need Siblings? Older sister, older brother, younger sibling | Why parents want to give their child a sibling | The reality is different 2. The Truth About Sibling Relationships Characteristics of sibling relationships | How sibling relationships change with development | How siblings influence each other 3. Raising Children Differently According to Birth Order The firstborn, a dethroned king | The second child, a brilliant mediator | The middle child, a resilient survivor | The youngest, a great achiever | The only child, an optimistic idealist | Twins and multiples, between individuality and bonding Part 2 – A New Baby Is Coming! So the First Child's Heart Won't Hurt 1. The Moment a Sibling Arrives When and how to announce the pregnancy 2. What to Do Before Birth for the First Child Sharing housework and childcare | Building a bond with a secondary caregiver | Establishing stable sleep habits | Weaning off nighttime feedings | Preparing for separation during postpartum care | Getting ready to welcome the new baby 3. The First Meeting with the New Sibling Meeting the new baby as soon as possible | Focusing on the child, not just the baby | Exchanging gifts | Holding the baby 4. Life With a New Sibling Spending happy time with the first child | Involving them in caring for the baby | Explaining even the small things | Making the first child feel like a star | Helping them feel loved | Minimizing changes | Paying attention to the child's needs | Building a bond with the new sibling | Common issues that arise after a sibling is born (Q&A) 5. When the New Sibling Starts Crawling Protecting the first child's belongings | Not forcing them to play with the baby | Responding enthusiastically to positive interactions | Making time for the first child | Not taking sides | Teaching them how to soothe hurt feelings | Common issues that arise when the baby starts crawling (Q&A) Part 3 – My Name Is "Younger Sibling": So the Second Child's Heart Won't Waver 1. The Second Child Always Feels Sorrow Preventing feelings of inferiority | Preventing loss of identity | Preventing feelings of exclusion | Preventing feelings of unfairness 2. The Second Child Wants to Win the Competition Not letting them only seek to satisfy their own needs | Helping them express their feelings | Common issues that arise as the second child becomes aware of the first (Q&A) Part 4 – Children Who Grow Up Fighting: They Can Grow Without Fighting Too 1. What Makes Children Fight? Conflicts that start in a triangle | Fighting can be "medicine" or "poison" | Why children fight | Sibling conflict: competition or mistreatment? 2. Traits of Families Where Children Fight Often Parents who don't understand the fighting | Parents who only limit physical aggression | Parents who don't fully resolve conflicts Part 5 – They Fought Yesterday, and They're Fighting Today: A Parent's Approach to Sibling Conflict 1. Principles Parents Should Hold Between Two Children Letting go of comparisons and labels | Listening to what the child says | Not showing favoritism | Showing love | Not using a child as a role model | Giving individual attention | Acknowledging each child's needs | Setting clear boundaries | Planning family activities | Making them feel like they're on the same team | Adjusting daily routines | Setting household rules 2. How to Handle Sibling Battles Timing is everything in parental intervention | Humor overcomes conflict | Rules for fighting and time-outs | Stopping fights with a quiet voice | Time to calm down | What to do in these situations? Part 6 – Raising Children Who Don't Fight With Their Siblings: Sibling Love Doesn't Happen on Its Own 1. Building Emotional Intelligence Talking about feelings | Interpreting the child's emotions and needs | The skill of speaking without blame | Modeling prosocial behavior | Sometimes limiting behavior is necessary | Releasing negative emotions | Coaching children to set limits with each other | Guiding creative ways to express emotions 2. Developing Problem-Solving Skills Staying calm | Acknowledging that there is a problem | Removing the source of conflict | Not judging the child's thoughts | Prioritizing family rules | Getting the child's agreement | Involving children in the problem-solving process | Writing down solutions together | Evaluating solutions | Monitoring together | Updating family rules